The Missing Piece: Rediscovering Joy in a Relationship with a Trauma Survivor

One of the most common dreams my clients have, though they may not always voice it at first, is wanting more joy in their lives. They often can’t even remember what they love to do because they’re so wrapped up in supporting their partner through trauma. If you’ve found yourself in this place, feeling lost and unsure of what makes you happy anymore, I want you to know this: You deserve to have fun again.

It’s something I see time and time again with the women I work with—they get stuck in “survival mode,” constantly navigating their partner’s trauma, and somewhere along the way, they lose sight of their own needs and happiness. But here’s the truth: healing your partner doesn’t mean abandoning your own joy. You deserve to smile, to feel excitement, to do the things that light you up.

Why Finding Your Own Joy Matters

When you’re in a relationship with someone dealing with unresolved trauma, it’s so natural to want to give everything you can to help them. But if you’re constantly giving without filling your own cup, you’ll find yourself exhausted, frustrated, and burned out. And when you’re drained like that, it’s nearly impossible to show up for your partner in the way you want to.

Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Recharging your energy means you can be there for yourself and your relationship. When you neglect your self-care, resentment can build, conflicts increase, and suddenly you’re reacting to triggers more than you’d like. That’s why I always tell my clients: You deserve to have fun again. You don’t have to stay in survival mode.

Reconnecting with Who You Are

So many of the women I work with tell me they don’t even know what they enjoy anymore. They’ve spent so long focusing on their partner’s needs that they’ve lost touch with their own passions. Sound familiar? If you can’t remember the last time you did something just for you—something that brought you joy—then it’s time to change that.

When was the last time you felt excited about a hobby or spent time on something that wasn’t about managing the house or supporting your spouse? This is the kind of self-reflection I encourage my clients to embrace. It’s not selfish to focus on yourself—it’s about finding what makes you happy again. And the beautiful thing is, when you’re happier, your relationship benefits too. You show up with more energy, more love, and more patience.

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If you’re feeling lost in your relationship and unsure of what brings you joy anymore, I’ve created the Happiness Hacker Handbook just for you! This free guide will help you reconnect with yourself in meaningful ways. It’s full of practical, actionable steps to help you rediscover your joy and boost your happiness.

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  It’s better than just “getting it together.” This is a step-by-step strategy you can come back to whenever you need it—designed to boost your happiness and energy.

You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode. You don’t have to lose yourself while supporting your partner’s healing. It’s time to focus on you and rediscover what makes you happy.

Take Action and Unlock Your Joy Today

Remember, healing is a journey—not just for your partner, but for you too. When you prioritize your own self-care and happiness, you’ll find yourself stronger, more resilient, and able to better support your partner. But more than that, you’ll find the joy you deserve in your own life.

Don’t wait for the perfect time to start taking care of yourself—it starts today. Download the Happiness Hacker Handbook now, and let’s unlock your joy together in 4 easy steps!

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You deserve to feel happy again. You deserve to have fun. Start today, and let’s make that happen. 💛