ATTN: Partners who are at a loss with knowing what to do in a relationship with a trauma survivor

A SURVIVOR'S PLAYBOOK FOR PARTNERS

...who have tried everything to manage the emotional minefield of navigating their partners childhood trauma. This is everything you need to know, do and say if you desperately need to reclaim your peace, happiness...and relationship!

Yes, I need this FREE Playbook

Truth time: Navigating a relationship with a trauma survivor is different!

❌The Love Languages Don’t Work.

❌Date Nights Don’t Do It.

❌Self-Help Books Don’t Help.

So what DOES work? This PLAYBOOK.

Even though relationships with partners who have a trauma history are different, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to find happiness!

"Danielle offers practical suggestions and stresses the importance of self-care. She holds nothing back. She's been there and come through it with hope, walking hand-in hand with her husband."

~Vicki T

"This program is really impactful because nobody really gives you the tools to get around it. I haven't found anything like your program before."

~ Lisa D

This guide is made for you if you're feeling...

You've tried everything

Nothing is working and you’re worried you don’t have what it takes to get through this.

Self-doubt

Always thinking they’d be happier with someone else who could handle the weight of their trauma.

Always on edge

You never seem to do or say the right things and find yourself constantly walking on eggshells.

The reality is...

You just want someone to tell you exactly what to do, say and how to react.

That's where this playbook comes into...PLAY.

What if you had the support you needed to finally...

Become less reactive and more proactive.

Know everything to do, say, and learn to calm the chaos.

Move from uncertainty and exhaustion to hope and joy.

No longer always have to be the strong, stoic one in your relationship.

Make your healing as important as your partners.

Inside this playbook, I’m laying out the bite-size steps to get back in the driver’s seat of your life (and your relationship).

Ready to build skills for a lasting, loving relationship where you're both happy and fulfilled?

Danielle Sebastian's story...

Back up to winter 2015 real quick... when my marriage had hit rock bottom. With my toddler in the back seat, we were headed to my parent's house for the foreseeable future. It was only at this point, when my husband realized that he was about to lose everything, that he revealed for the first time to anyone, a terrible history of childhood abuse at the hands of the church.

At first I felt like I had been lied to our whole marriage, BUT I also had a little bit of hope that this was the THING. The thing that I couldn’t put my finger on… the thing that was below the surface of all the behaviors I didn't understand. That if we worked really hard, we could overcome it.

I sure did not know what the heck I was in for.

After looking everywhere for others who were going through the same thing and what felt like a combined 246173 hours of hours pulling my hair out, I realized something… there was a startling lack of resources for partners like me.

I'll never forget the moment when I decided it was time for me to surrender to the fact that I had no idea what I was doing. I needed help and support. Just as much as my partner did.

I dove right in, spending endless hours learning about how trauma messes with adult relationships. It was a bit of a hit or miss, but I eventually started to see REAL change in me and my relationship.

Today, our relationship is stronger than ever. INSANE.

While the triggers and emotions will always surface and never completely go away, we have the tools to deal with them in a healthy way.

So how did we do it? What was it that we figured out we needed?

Ahhh...and THIS is exactly why you're here! I'm about to share it with you on this page...(SPOILER ALERT...I DID NOT DO IT ALONE!)

Real Tactics, Real Healing: A Survivor's Playbook for Navigating a Relationship with a Trauma Survivor

Everything you need to know, do and say to navigate the emotional minefield, find balance, and regain your self-worth and happiness.

It's time to build your life back. Step by step and bit-by-bit, we will start creating your next chapter.

The best is yet to come (TRUST ME)!

Danielle guides wives through the steps to a stronger self, marriage and family. The process Danielle shares is a powerful tool for building resilience not only in women wanting to support their husbands, but for anyone who is in a committed relationship with a survivor of abuse.

~Dr. Blair D. Davison, M.D., Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Here is what you will get instant access to:

SECTION 1 → YOUR PARTNERS BRAIN ON TRAUMA

✨Examine the brain of the trauma survivor to identify which behaviors may be playing out in YOUR marriage.

Worksheet to identify triggers associated with your partner's trauma.

This will help you UNDERSTAND THE WHY so that you can GET TO THE WHAT.

SECTION 2 → CALMING CURRENT CONFLICT

✨Get a handle on all those emotions flying your way! Your husband needs to find a healthy outlet for his feelings. And for you? Keep those emotions from always landing on your doorstep.

Let's take scriptwriting approach to handling emotions. Write it out, rehearse it before delivering your lines.

This will help you CREATE A SAFE SPACE where both of you can freely express your emotions.

SECTION 3 → GET GOOD AT SETTING BOUNDARIES

✨Boundaries help you express your needs and feelings clearly. The three golden rules for setting boundaries.

Get hands-on and put pen to paper to develop your personal boundary strategy and craft responses to the scenarios you frequently encounter.

This will help you BE PREPARED to handle common situations.

SECTION 4 → SUPPORT TEAM FOR THE LONG HAUL

✨No more isolation and struggling on your own. There is a lot of pressure to not share your story with others. You may have even already upset your husband by opening up to someone. BUT, this is about YOU. YOU making your healing as important as your partners.

Sketch out a plan that both of you are cool with—one that keeps your private stuff private while making sure you both get the support you need.

This will make sure you both know what kind of SUPPORT YOU NEED and how to get it.

SECTION 5 → REDISCOVERING YOU

✨Lost touch with what you truly want? Let's celebrate the rebirth of your confidence and dive into auditing your relationship.

Take a closer look at your relationship. Identify what you want to continue, what to leave behind. Prioritize these elements and get them scheduled!

This will help you CREATE ROOM FOR THINGS THAT MATTER.

Here's What You Get

✅ Signs Your Relationship Issues Could be Due To a Traumatic Past

✅ Understanding the Trauma Survivors Brain

✅ Identifying Triggers Checklist

✅ Handing the Rollercoaster of Emotions

✅ 5 Steps to Navigate the Ups and Downs of Emotions and Behaviors that Lead to Conflict Handout

✅ Having Difficult Conversation Script - SHARE Framework

✅ Get Good at Setting Boundaries Worksheet

✅ What to Do and Say for Different Scenarios Handout and Worksheet

✅ Getting Support Checklist

✅ Auditing your Relationship Checklist

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This playbook was made for you if...

You're sick and tired of walking in a field of landmines where you can't figure out what will upset your partner.

You are always

on edge.

You have tried

everything,

but just keep

hitting a brick wall.

You are feeling really bad about yourself because the person that you love continues to be unhappy in spite of your best efforts.

I need to make sure you're not missing what's going on here...

❌This is NOT a course on relationships.

❌This is NOT about teaching you things.

This IS a playbook filled with quick-hit shifts you can make today to start to calm the chaos of conflict and strengthen your bond.

If you're ready for a shift in the way you navigate your marriage to a trauma survivor, this is for you.

Rachel N

Danielle is so genuine, so full of life and a breathe of fresh air. What's different about Danielle versus a lot of other people is that she's walked through this. She knows what the deep depths of despair is and what she is doing is making a difference.

Courtney B

Spouses take so much of the load of trauma, but are often overlooked in how to handle it. This guide fills the void and then some.

Anonymous Wife to Trauma Survivor

Danielle outlines the good-the bad-and the ugly to lay out a plan for building your own support system and self-care practices you need to take control of yourself.

Jen V

Marriage is hard, marriage to a childhood trauma victim is even harder, but thanks to Danielle it doesn't have to be so hard finding a way to stay strong as the supporting spouse on the way through recovery.

Imagine finally being able to feel confident in your relationship, feel safe to be more vulnerable, and be supported.

During this process, you will start making small steps towards making big changes.

Being able to work through difficult times without things escalating and flying off the handle.

Finally feel like you’re in the marriage you signed up for.

Diane P

I'm inspired to take on new challenges with a fresh, new perspective and renewed courage for the journey of marriage.

Jen B

It helped me learn how to handle difficult situations in my relationship no matter what the circumstances.

Laura O

Danielle offers an often unspoken and unique view on the impact childhood abuse.

Kelly V

Danielle has actual strategies that help wives. It gave me hope in a really difficult situation.