HAVE YOU EVER HOPED THAT...
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…you and your husband could actually talk without it turning into a shutdown, a blow-up, or days of silence?
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That you could share the mental load, feel like a team again, and stop feeling like the only adult in the relationship?
Here’s why that hasn’t happened yet:
If your partner has a history of childhood trauma, traditional relationship advice just doesn’t work.
It’s not you. It’s not him. It’s what happened to him.
The good news?
There’s a trauma-informed way to finally shift the dynamic—without walking on eggshells or losing yourself in the process.
Who Am I?
I’m Danielle Sebastian—a trauma-informed relationship coach, bestselling author, and founder of WifeCARE. But long before that… I was just a woman in a struggling marriage, desperate for answers.
I remember how lonely it felt—like I was trapped in a rowboat, paddling in circles while the person I loved sat silently on the other side, not even picking up an oar. I was doing everything I could to keep us afloat—reading all the books, attending therapy, trying to communicate “the right way”—but it felt like I was whispering through a wall of glass. Every conversation became a landmine, and no matter how gently I stepped, something always exploded. I found myself waking up with knots in my stomach, rehearsing what to say, how to say it, when to say it—just to avoid another shutdown, another blame spiral, another night of silence. I kept wondering, “How did we end up here? And why does it feel like I’m the only one trying to fix it?”
I searched everywhere for support. I scoured the internet for something—anything—for partners of trauma survivors. But there was nothing. No community. No books. No real guidance for someone like me.
That’s when I began my own deep dive—into trauma, relationships, neurobiology, and what really happens when you’re married to someone who’s experienced deep emotional wounds. And one breakthrough changed everything:
I finally understood that my husband wasn’t reacting to me. He was reacting from survival.
His coping mechanisms were formed to protect him as a child—because he needed them to survive. But those same mechanisms were now sabotaging our intimacy, communication, and connection. And he didn’t know how to change them. Honestly, neither did I.
But once I saw the patterns through a trauma-informed lens, it all made sense.
✨ I stopped taking everything so personally.
✨ I stopped trying to use “normal” communication strategies that only backfired.
✨ And I started responding in a way that actually calmed the storm instead of fueling it.
That’s when I created the CARE framework—because we didn’t just need insight… we needed tools that actually work. This step-by-step, trauma-informed path shows you how to calm the chaos, stop walking on eggshells, and finally feel like you’re not the only one holding it all together. It’s how you start feeling lighter. More steady. Like yourself again. You’ll laugh more, breathe deeper, and maybe—for the first time in a long time—remember what joy, ease, and fun actually feel like.
Today, I lead coaching programs, host a TV show, and write the guides I wish I had back then—because no one should have to figure this out alone.
There is a better way. And I’d be honored to show it to you.
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Let’s heal forward—together. Â
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~Anonymous Wife to Trauma Survivor
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Danielle paves a path for hope and healing for the spouse, but also helps establish realistic expectations. She outlines the good-the bad- and the ugly to lay out a plan for building your own support system and self-care practices you need to take control of yourself.
You end up healing wounds your soul has accumulated to develop the resilience needed to support your partner. Â

Courtney Babcock,Â
Olympian, World Masters Champ, NCAA Division 1 Head Coach, Founder Key Running + Women's Empowerment Retreats
Spouses take so much of the load of trauma, but are often overlooked in how to handle it. Resilient Wives fills the void and then some.
From the voice of someone who has lived it, her honest and vulnerable story shows its messy and imperfect, but it's worth it.Â

Dr. Blair D. Davison,Â
M.D., Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
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Danielle guides wives through the steps to a stronger self, marriage and family. The process Danielle shares is a powerful tool for building resilience not only in women wanting to support their husbands, but for anyone who is in a committed relationship with a survivor of abuse.
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