BECOME HAPPY & HOPEFUL
Bestselling author and speaker Danielle Sebastian shares her inspiring story of resilience and hope, detailing her journey as a wife overcoming the complex challenges of being the partner to someone who survived childhood trauma.
A FREE SURVIVOR'S PLAYBOOK FOR PARTNERS
...who have tried everything to manage the emotional minefield of navigating their partners childhood trauma. This is everything you need to know, do and say if you desperately need to reclaim your peace, happiness...and relationship!
In every relationship, we crave stability, predictability, and connection.
However, when in a relationship with someone with unresolved trauma from their childhood, it can seem like you are in a field of landmines where you can't figure out what will upset your partner.
It's like you're going along and everything seems to be going great. Then out of the blue, your partner is upset with you, and you have no idea what you did to cause that outburst of emotion or what you can do to make it stop. You want your partner to be happy, but you seem to always hit a wall.
No matter what you try, he still continues to have responses that seem way out of context, and that are difficult for you to understand. And what's worse, the more you try to make things better, you feel more and more discouraged. Ultimately, feeling really bad about yourself because the person that you love continues to be unhappy in spite of your best efforts to be a good partner.
You have been wearing the weight of these very heavy circumstances and you're just trying to survive.
You feel like you're going crazy. You feel confused. You feel like you've tried everything and nothing makes it better... or makes him better.
On top of that, you're isolated. You feel like you can't keep going to your family or your friends. It's like you've used all of your life lines.
Let me start by telling you that this is really common and it's not your fault that your partner is struggling.
But there's hope!
There are things you can start doing today to gain more control through the chaos.
Danielle paves a path for hope and healing for the spouse, but also helps establish realistic expectations. She outlines the good-the bad- and the ugly to lay out a plan for building your own support system and self-care practices you need to take control of yourself.
You end up healing wounds your soul has accumulated to develop the resilience needed to support your partner.
~Anonymous Wife to Trauma Survivor
Meet Danielle Sebastian
For years, I struggled to make sense of my seemingly-doomed marriage. The turning point came with a heart-wrenching revelation – my husband, for the first time, shared his horrifying history of childhood trauma at the hands of the church. This moment of raw truth ignited an eight-year odyssey of recovery, marked by sorrow, anguish, and relentless determination.
As we navigated this tumultuous path, I realized the profound impact childhood trauma had on our relationship. But in seeking guidance, I faced a stark reality – there was a startling lack of resources for spouses. The internet offered mere fragments of information, but what I yearned for was a comprehensive understanding. I needed to know that the difficulties we faced weren't my fault, that they stemmed from unaddressed trauma and our responses to it.
Recognizing the glaring gap in support, I decided to create what I couldn't find. This platform is more than just a collection of articles; it's a sanctuary for those seeking understanding and practical tools to navigate the complex dynamics of a relationship affected by childhood trauma. Here, you'll find the guidance I longed for – the knowledge to help you see that you're not alone, the scripts to foster healthier communication, and the strategies to build boundaries and resolve conflicts.
Join me on this journey of healing and empowerment. Together, let's transform our struggles into a story of resilience and hope.
More About My Story
Dr. Blair D. Davison
M.D., Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
Danielle guides wives through the steps to a stronger self, marriage and family. The process Danielle shares is a powerful tool for building resilience not only in women wanting to support their husbands, but for anyone who is in a committed relationship with a survivor of abuse.
My Passion for the CARE framework.
Your situation may feel unique, but the emotions and challenges are universally understood. My experiences have shaped a framework designed to guide you through similar struggles, ensuring you don't have to face them alone.
This CARE framework is a culmination of everything I've learned and a tool to empower YOU. It's crafted to help you navigate your journey more smoothly, providing insights and strategies that transformed my life. This isn't just about enduring; it's about thriving in your relationship, despite the chaos caused by unresolved trauma.
Let me share with you the keys to not just survive, but to flourish in your relationship.
Fast forward 14 years, my husband and I now revel in a harmonious and healed relationship. We've turned our scars into healing.
By following my process you will be on your way to healing and harmony in your relationship. The possibility of moving from suffering to support, from despair to hope.
Let's transform your dreams into reality, together!
Spouses take so much of the load of trauma, but are often overlooked in how to handle it. Resilient Wives fills the void and then some.
From the voice of someone who has lived it, her honest and vulnerable story shows its messy and imperfect, but it's worth it.
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Olympian, World Masters Champ, NCAA Division 1 Head Coach, Founder Key Running + Women's Empowerment Retreats
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If You're Reading This and Feeling Frustrated to be Trying So Hard, But Nothing Appears to Be Working...
My mission is to be a helping hand for partners that are feeling so alone, that feel like no one really understands. Partners that feel like they have used all their lifelines with their family and friends. That’s why I offer a one-on-one call with me to figure things out together. To take your what-ifs into what's next.
BUT, I know how much pressure there is to not share your story with others. You feel like it's not your story to tell. You may have already upset your partner by opening up to a close friend or family member.
I want assure you that this call is NOT about airing your dirty laundry. This is about YOU. YOU making your healing as important as your partners.
You have nothing to lose by finally chatting with someone, because I get it. This is a safe space.
If you’re feeling even a slight pull, take 1 minute right now and book that call.
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